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On OKCupid; We’m male. I do not deliver messages that are many possibly 3-5 each week & i am attempting to be selective & make time to re-read a profile and write an “attractive” message. I do not get numerous reactions and i realize that some females get a large amount of unsolicited msgs. So they may be exceptionally selective.

Therefore, some body awesome reacted and I also delivered an email straight right back later on the exact same time. Just examined: yikes, just a little over one hour. Now this has been 2 days & as a result of OKC’s “last visited” snoop-a-matic, i understand she actually is been on.

So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond? (rhetorical: i am aware we’m being impatient) c) the length of time do I need to wait time that is next?

We suppose we possibly could make use of the time and energy to compose a draft reaction & allow it to sit for dispassionate review.

Present & related: simply closing interaction, callous as it might appear, in fact is the norm and possibly really is a simpler let down than “on 2nd thought perhaps not interested” message. The 3 time rule still sort of exists, for a lot of, anyhow.

We suppose I could make use of the time for you to write a draft response

Oh please don’t do that — it’s going to be obvious, and it surely will oftimes be too much time. You do not even understand that which you may be giving an answer to. Chill out, aim for a stroll. Get off your pc. Do not bring your smartphone. Awesome person either will or will likely not react, it is from the arms now. Published by desjardins at 1:41 PM on April 1, 2011 2 favorites

Information point: we frequently read communications appropriate away. I usually do not react until when I’ve thought for me to get around to it about it a little, and that bit of procrastination means sometimes it might take a couple days. The timing of my response is not actually associated with the timing of this other person’s (caveat: we attempt to react to every message I have, and the impression is had by me that’s not the norm). Never stress away way too much about this.

Additionally, just just just what Lyn Never Ever stated. Published by Vibrissa at 1:51 PM on April 1, 2011 1 favorite

If some body writes for me and it is interesting, i simply take in regards to a to respond day. I am going to glance at the man or woman’s profile then think about a thoughtful response, specially within the message that is first. I shall generally reduce the time taken between communications as time goes by.

If I compose some body first, We frequently simply take things in the responder’s speed. If it took 2 times for the man to react to me personally, i am going to wait at the very least each day to create to him. I do not would you like to overwhelm individuals.

We often feel overrun whenever individuals respond too rapidly.

It really is a tricky situation and I do not understand all of the proper responses. I had also toyed because of the concept of asking an identical concern to yours to have an over-all opinion of whether We’m following etiquette that is online dating. Published by parakeetdog at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011

So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond?

A) probably perhaps not b) possibly published by empath at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011 3 favorites

We get e-mail observe that i’ve brand brand new okc messages and certainly will often utilize the mobile site to read through a message that is new. OKC shows that we’ve logged on, but we never compose reactions from my phone – that takes place in the weekend when I can log into my desktop computer. But i do want to check out the inbox just in case a date cancelled, etc.

We don’t/wouldn’t read any such thing into response times. Do not compose a reply to a note you have not seen yet. Otherwise, whatever you’re saying seems good. Anecdotally, I often have a primary contact reply rate of 20-30%, i do believe which is fairly normal.

Ideally you feel a lot better so now you have got lots of near-instant responses that are askme.: ) published by momus_window at 1:58 PM on 1, 2011 april

That you don’t desire to regularly react to the person that is same an hour or so, since that may conjure a picture of some guy desperately sitting around on OKCupid 24/7 prepared to immediately react to any person in the exact opposite intercourse who deigns to write to him.

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